Today I was hitting the Toddler Wall of Never. This is known as "neber" for many toddlers.
Every question I asked my little angel was met with the same response...."I neber do that, Mommy". In one day I heard:
I neber pee on a potty.
I neber wear big boy pants.
I neber take a bath.
I neber take naps.
I neber poop.
I neber......you get the point.
I tried valiantly to counter the tiny human's obstinance with counter arguments. "Chase, you need to poop, it's a very important daily event for your body to work properly".
It occurred to me that all my counter arguments were just that....arguments. Toddlers are just beginning to negotiate, but are still pretty far off from engaging in a discussion in which they consider your points in a rational manner. They want what they want and do not want to do what they find to be unappealing.
Ahhhhhh......it's like speaking to a client/friend/family member who doesn't want to make, what they consider to be, unappealing changes for better health. I will get the messages of sadness, confusion, and frustration regarding their current condition, but when I begin to put a plan together for them to conquer it - the excuses begin.
I don't have time.
I don't have money. (Love this one- those designer coffees, fast food stops, and junk from the center isles are NOT free, but money can be found, huh?)
I don't have workout clothes. (Yeah, I have heard this)
It doesn't sound like fun.
My family won't let me eat healthy.
I could go on and on, but the real issue comes down to effort. When you are ready to be proactive in your own health and wellness call me, because I can not workout for you. I struggle with my own food issues and time constraints - so you need to be a team player when making decisions at the store and working out. Stop making excuses! I will promise to continue to give you the counter arguments, support, and motivation. I will help you make a plan and I will completely understand the stumbling blocks along the way because I have been there, too. BUT, I can't do it for you. So, take charge of your life. Reach out. It's time for the change you have wanted....or you can stomp your foot and "neber" do it for a variety of excuses.
Gotta run....apparently Chase does poop......